Sunday, June 17, 2012

Does True Love Exist?

Do you believe in love? Are you and your girlfriend/boyfriend truly in love? With teenager’s hormones always on overdrive, many misinterpret the word love. The question of whether true love really exists cannot be answered, without clarifying what true love really is, but the honest truth is, teenagers don’t really know what true love is. Love requires a commitment, and I’m quite sure 13 and 14 year olds aren’t ready for commitment.

You love your animals, you love your parent’s, and you love your t-shirt. Love is like a hat, you feel warm in it, and you like how it looks, but when it gets old, you throw it out, or when a new hat comes out, you want it.

From Taylor Swift and Joe Jonas to Miley Cyrus and Nick Jonas, these celebrities are even young adults and they supposedly ‘loved’ each other, but then why is it that it didn’t last? Are we simply fooling ourselves over boredom and loneliness, or is love just a trend running through schools today?

And then you look in these magazines and on TV, do you know how many couples break up over work and cheating, the likely hood of getting married from teenage hood is low, and we just need to face reality.

In my opinion, we shouldn’t be caring about whose dating who, and who’s hot and whose not. We should be enjoying life, and being young. You only get to be a child once, and you shouldn’t just give love away like an article of clothing.

Yes, young love has happened, and can be true. But you have to ask yourself, is your love puppy love or real love. Young love is running in our society today, and it is not always bad. But people need to start realizing that there are more important things in life, then dating the popular guy in high school, enjoy your childhood, because before you know it, you are going to be a adult, and you can’t go back, it’s not the end of the world, if you pay attention to your school grades and not on boys or girls. There’s plenty of time to find true love, and teenagers are getting too caught up.

Maybe if teenagers today started focusing and loving themselves, they’d be a happier and more successful person. And eventually instead of them looking for love, true love will finally reach them.
I just think , that teenagers are growing up so fast, and they think they know what true love is, but the fact is, they really don't know.

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

My Dream Wedding (Modern + Elegant Beach Wedding)

With a color palette ranging from pale aqua to sand, and the gorgeous setting of the St. Regis Monarch Beach Resort as the backdrop, the couple worked with Jeannie Savage of Details, Details to create a wedding that was clean and modern, and also incorporated sweet personal touches that paid homage to their families and shared history as a couple.  As a nod to Meghan’s Indian heritage, the signature drink was the “Indian Summer” and ladies received pashmina favors, and to celebrate with friends, they brought in their favorite law school band, The Spazmatics, and created an after-party menu inspired by late night eateries in Austin, where they met.  Prepare to fall in love with their stunning wedding, full of lush orchids, hydrangea, tulips, and calla lilies, and all of the gorgeous images from Caroline Tran!

Well i want all those thing in my wedding...
And the most important is the wedding should be at the beach...
And the themes were modern and elegant.

Monday, June 11, 2012

Every Girl Deserve This Once In A Life Time~

Maybe a lot of people might say that i am crazy over getting married but actually NO. When i listen to this song i'll always remember and forever stick it in my head about my family incident. Mostly, this song make me have the courage to get into a relationship again.
I want to have this song on my wedding. But i don't think i'll remember this song after a very long time. I am still a teenager. A girl that doesn't know anything and always been protected by my dad. I hope everything that came to me will stay permanently. Not only love, my study, my everything and mostly my family and also HIM.
I wanna look beautiful in white. Because my aunt say the moment when a girl look obviously beautiful is when she wore her weeding dress and married to someone who she love so much. I hope i can find someone who will love me truly in the future not because i have wealth or my appearance but because he wan to live this life with me.
P/S: To all girls this is a comment i get from a reader
It made me cry.. I never wanted to get married but it made me realize how blessed I would be if that happens by Ssejea 
I'm gonna be in white :D by MrLoveVio


It is so easy to watch than to live it but we can do all things that strengtheneth us. I am so glad about that. I have come across this kind of 'fireproof' life. I know the mess that is in there but He will make everything so pure and clean if we just deny ourselves and follow Him. Stop thinking about 'Me', 'Myself' and 'I'. 

Where are you now?

Will you be there for me?
That's the question that i often asked myself when i was alone and lonely
Did everything happend because of myself or it was destined?

Most of the people in this world must be saying that i was crazy if they saw this~
A 17 years old girl will have this kind of trouble, well it wasn't anything to me anymore~
It was already a part in my life, been lonely and also been in a up side down life~
It doesn't matter much for me to keep it on but sometimes i was really tired with this kind of life~
A ordinary life or maybe an extraordinary life for others~

I never thought of getting more and more better in my own world~
Truly i say, i wasn't ready for everything that i going to face in the future or maybe in a while more~
Somtimes a human also need a rest other than sleeping~
You guys must be laughing right now an i right?
It was okay for me~

Is it a poison to listen to me even once?
Would it kill if you listen to me even once?
Will it really make you feel bad if you listen to me?
Is it because i was a girl a 17 years old girl~
An unmature gurl......

But in my opinion an unmuture girl is having a trouble will be a mature girl~
But in others eyes she will always be unmature because she wanted other to notice her~
Is it wrong to have other noticing me?
Is it awful?
Is it bad of painful to understand me?

Do you guys make friends with me because of my atitiude?
Or it is because of other reason that i myself doesn't know~!

It is up to you guys to think whatever you like~
But i tell you guys something, i am a girl that won't change myself for other people needs~

Sunday, June 3, 2012

How to Maintain a Relationship

“When it comes to love, you need not fall but rather surrender,surrender to the idea that you must love yourself before you can love another. You must absolutely trust yourself before you can absolutely trust another and most importantly you must accept your flaws before you can accept the flaws of another.“
~ Philosophy: Falling in Love
Relationships with our spouses and girl/boy-friends can be one of the most rewarding aspects of our lives. We hold a special place for that someone with whom we’ve shared countless moments of joy. Personality differences are inevitable, and what makes us unique as individuals can result in disagreements and conflicts during our relationship.

When these disagreements are not properly understood and managed emotionally, trivial exchanges can stir into full-on battles, and possibly end what we’ve spent months or years to build.
Yes, there are relationships where personalities are mismatched and breakups are beneficial. However, many breakups are unnecessary, as a result of built up anger and destructive cycles. When they happen, we experience a tremendous amount of pain and emotional hurt.

By facing our partners with awareness and a genuine desire for understanding, I believe that we hold the key to wellness in these special relationships.

The Truth

Before digging into ways we can overcome arguments, disagreements and fights from a relationship, let’s have a closer look at what happens when we are in this uncomfortable state. The following are some insights we’ve observed from our argument patterns.

Playing the Crying Baby – We take turns becoming a baby. At any one point during a fight, one of us is calm, while the other turns into a baby. That person becomes irrational, severely emotional, whiny and defensive. They say things that are regretted later. Once the baby finishes expressing him or herself, slowly rises on become clam, the role switches and the other person becomes the crying baby.

Attention, Appreciation, Acknowledgement – When we fall into the crying baby state, we are really seeking attention, acknowledgement, appreciation and care. The root for our emotional reaction when we are in this state is seeking reinforcement for why we matter.

Selfish & Self-Serving – When our inner baby subsumes us, we are selfish and self-serving. We cannot understand why our partner does not sympathize. The more we try to express ourselves, the less they seem to tune into what is bothering us. In this state, we lack the capacity to consider our partner’s feelings, and forget that they too are hurt.

Victim Mindset – When we become a baby, we feel that we are the victim. Our mind is focused on seeking evidence that support our victim story. By doing so, the other person becomes the unreasonable one. Once we find our evidence, we start playing scenes of ourselves as the victim, and we play this on repeat. We feel pain in our hearts, and we seek more pain and more reasons for pain. In some unconscious way, we enjoy this pain because it allows us to play the victim role, thus feeding our fears that life is full of painful relationships and no one truly understands us.

Right & Wrong - Superficially, the battle can be distilled down to who is right. We believe that we are right and we must prove that the other person is wrong. The disagreement quickly turns into a battle of the egos. In this state, we have a strong urge to prove to the other person that we are right, after all.

Bottled Emotions - As the crying baby, we express purely the self-serving thoughts that arise in our minds. The emotions bottled deep inside us are causing those thoughts, but they are often unrelated to the situation. Having bottled emotions does not mean that we cannot communicate our feelings. Often times, we are not even conscious of these feelings until they manifest into our lives. For example, we go out to watch a movie, but we really didn’t want to go see the movie to begin with, so we unconsciously sabotage the movie outing with a problem: complaining about bad seats, or complaining that the ticket line is too long.

Alternative Meaning - We collect words expressed by the other person, jump to conclusions, and assume the worst. We find a meaning that serves us but is not the true meaning of their words in that moment. We tell ourselves that this meaning is the absolute meaning, and is definite and permanent. Truth is, when we are irrational, we say all sorts of things we don’t mean out of heightened emotions.

Differences Between the Sexes – Men are just as emotional and sensitive as women. The difference is in the way that men and women express themselves, and this is often misunderstood. Here are some differences we’ve observed. Keep in mind the following three things while reading:
1) I realize that this is a generalization, so bear with me.
2) When I speak about “women”, I am referring to feminine qualities and tendencies instead of the gender. Similarly, when I mention “men”, I am referring to masculine qualities. It is possible for a woman to have more traditionally masculine qualities and vice-versa.
3) I am using male- female couple in the examples, but this is applicable to same sex couples as well.

  • As women, we tend to hide our inner thoughts. When we are upset about something, we assume that the other person is a mind-reader and should know exactly what we are thinking without telling them. We throw hints by being upset and frustrated. This is extremely frustrating for men (or other women), since they want to help, but cannot seem to get anywhere and cannot understand why we are so upset. At the sight of our partner not picking up on our clues, we get even more upset and hurt.
  • As men, we tend to be more verbal, we think out loud. We may internalize some or all of our feelings, but our thoughts are externalized through speaking or writing. Because we speak our thoughts, we often get in trouble with the women in our lives, since she can be hurt by what we say. Society has trained us to have an alpha-male ego, which acts like a wall defending the integrity and strength of our character. This strength defines us and our thoughts, keeping our less-than-rock-steady emotions well guarded. We are actually highly perceptive and more sensitive than society gives us credit for. We can easily sense when our women are unhappy and we want to help by making her happy again. But she remains upset and assumes that we are mind-readers. But we just don’t know what she is thinking. This is really painful. We wish she just told us exactly what we can do to make her happy again.

Am I in Love?

It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

  1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
  2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
  3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
  4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
  5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
  6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
  7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
  8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
  9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.
Is it more than 5 are correct?
If yes then you are in love.

How do I trust my boyfriend?

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months, and he’s NEVER given me any reason to not trust him. He’s never cheated, lied, or anything remotely close to that. He’s always been honest with me and never fails to be affectionate and tell me how much he cares about me. But I can’t trust him. And I get extremely bad separation anxiety when I’m not with him. I always want to try and control him, who he’s with, where he goes, what he’s doing, and I never want him to do anything if I’m not involved. Which, clearly isn’t healthy at all. I get so anxious and jealous about everything he does that I’m not there for. And it’s starting to ruin our relationship.
The only conclusion I can make is in my previous relationship, I was treated very badly. I was with the guy for a year and he cheated on me, never told me anything, talked about me behind my back, was rude, disrespectful, unappreciative, and etc. So i’ve carried those trust issues over into the relationship I’m in now, and after 6 months of being together, I’m still not better. I just want to fix myself so bad because I’m so sure that this guy is the one for me. I don’t know what to do. I already take medication for anxiety, and it doesn’t help. I don’t want anymore medication, I just want to fix myself without help of any kind of drugs. What do I do?

Thank you for writing. I agree. If you don’t get hold of this, you’re going to lose a great guy. No one wants to live with this level of jealousy and distrust. It’s not fair to him for you to treat him like someone he’s not. And it’s not fair to yourself to hold onto the hurts from a prior boyfriend.

What you can do at this point is get yourself into some therapy. Medication isn’t going to fix these issues. Therapy will. You need help to recover from being betrayed and badly hurt. If you could recover on your own, you would have done it already. You’re clearly motivated. You just don’t know how to go about it.

Meanwhile, you can ask your boyfriend to put up with your behavior while you work on yourself. If he knows you’re in treatment, he may be able to stand it awhile longer — especially if you also focus on the good times.

I wish you well.

Big Bang Making Of Monster

Big Bang - Monster Lyrics (Hangul & Romanized)


오랜만이야 못 본 사이 그댄 얼굴이 좋아 보여
예뻐졌다 넌 항상 내 눈엔 원래 고와 보여
근데 오늘따라 조금 달라 보여 유난히 뭔가 더 차가워 보여
나를 보는 눈빛이 동정에 가득 차있어 네 앞에서 난 작아 보여
괜찮은 척 애써 대화주제를 바꿔버려
묻고 싶은 말은 많은데 넌 딱 잘라버려
네 긴 머린 찰랑거려 내 볼을 때리곤 스쳐지나
뒤돌아선 곧장 가버려 여기서 널 잡으면 우스워지나

아무 말도 떠오르지 않죠 떨면서 넌 한두 발짝 뒤로
이젠 내가 무섭단 그 말 날 미치게 하는 너란 달

I love you baby I’m not a monster
넌 알잖아 예전 내 모습을 시간이 지나면 사라져 버릴 텐데 그 땐 알 텐데 baby

I need you baby I’m not a monster
날 알잖아 이렇게 가지마 너 마저 버리면 난 죽어버릴 텐데 I’m not a monster

무슨 일이 있어도 영원하자고 슬플 때도 기쁠 때도 끝까지 하자고
You don’t say that tomorrow 오늘이 마지막인 것처럼 사랑하자고

너 없는 삶은 종신형 세상과 단절돼 돌 지경이야
너란 존재는 고질병 시련의 연속 마음 속 미련이야

세상사람들이 내게 돌린 등 모든 것이 베베 꼬여있던 눈초리들
내게 가장 큰 아픔은 (아픔은) 네가 그들 같아졌단 것뿐

I love you baby I’m not a monster
넌 알잖아 예전 내 모습을 시간이 지나면 사라져 버릴 텐데 그 땐 알 텐데 baby

I need you baby I’m not a monster
날 알잖아 이렇게 가지마 너마저 버리면 난 죽어버릴 텐데 I’m not a monster

가지마 가지마 가지마 떠나지 말아
하지마 하지마 하지마 너 같지않아
멀어진 채로 사랑은 걸러진 채로
찾지마 찾지마 찾지마 날 찾지 말아
마지막 마지막 마지막 네 앞에 서 있는
내 모습을 기억해줘 날 잊지 말아줘

I love you baby I’m not a monster
넌 알잖아 예전 내 모습을 시간이 지나면 사라져 버릴 텐데 그 땐 알 텐데 baby

I need you baby I’m not a monster
날 알잖아 이렇게 가지마 너 마저 버리면 난 죽어버릴 텐데 I’m not a monster

I think I’m sick I think I’m sick
I think I’m sick I think I’m sick


Olaenman-iya mos bon sai geudaen eolgul-i joh-a boyeo
Yeppeojyeossda neon hangsang nae nun-en wonlae gowa boyeo
Geunde oneulttala jogeum dalla boyeo yunanhi mwonga deo chagawo boyeo
Naleul boneun nunbich-i dongjeong-e gadeug chaiss-eo ne ap-eseo nan jag-a boyeo
Gwaenchanh-eun cheog aesseo daehwa jujeleul bakkwo beolyeo
Mudgo sip-eun mal-eun manh-eunde neon ttag jalla beolyeo
Ne gin meolin challang geolyeo nae bol-eul ttaeligon seuchyeojina
Dwidol-aseon godjang gabeolyeo yeogiseo neol jab-eumyeon useuwojina

Amu maldo tteooleuji anhjyo tteolmyeonseo neon handu baljjag dwilo
Ijen naega museobdan geu mal nal michigehaneun neolan dal

I love you baby I’m not a monster
Neon aljanh-a yejeon nae moseub-eul sigan-i jinamyeon salajyeo beolil tende geu ttaen al tende 

I need you baby I’m not a monster
Nal aljanh-a ileohge gajima neo majeo beolimyeon nan jug-eo beolil tende 
I’m not a monster

Museun il-iiss-eodo yeong-won hajago seulpeul ttaedo gippeul ttaedo kkeutkkaji hajago
You don’t say that tomorrow oneul-i majimag-in geoscheoleom salang hajago naeil malha jima

Neoeobsneun salm-eun jongsinhyeong sesang-gwa danjeoldwae dol jigyeong-iya
Neolan jonjaeneun gojilbyeong silyeon-ui yeonsog ma-eum sog milyeon-iya

Sesang salamdeul-i naege dollin deung modeun geos-i bebe kkoyeo issdeon nuncholideul
Naege gajang keun apeum-eun (apeum-eun) nega geudeul gat-ajyeossdan geosppun

I love you baby I’m not a monster
Neon aljanh-a yejeon nae moseub-eul sigan-i jinamyeon salajyeo beolil tende geu ttaen al tende 

I need you baby I’m not a monster
Nal aljanh-a ileohge gajima neomajeo beolimyeon nan jug-eo beolil tende 
I'm not a monster

Gajima gajima gajima tteonaji mal-a
Hajima hajima hajima neo gatji anh-a
Meol-eojin chaelo salang-eun geolleojin chaelo
Chaj-jima chaj-jima chaj-jima nal chaj-ji mal-a
Majimag majimag majimag ne ap-e seoissneun
Nae moseub-eul gieoghaejwo nal ij-ji mal-ajwo

I love you baby I’m not a monster
Neon aljanh-a yejeon nae moseub-eul sigan-i jinamyeon salajyeo beolil tende geu ttaen al tende 

I need you baby I’m not a monster
Nal aljanh-a ileohge gajima neomajeo beolimyeon nan jug-eo beolil tende 
I'm not a monster

I think I’m sick I think I’m sick
I think I’m sick I think I’m sick


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